I am sad, and cranky and irritated for PS. She was texting several of her friends yesterday, trying to find someone to go see a theater production at the high school with her this weekend. She was bummed that no one seemed to be available. And then one of them let it slip that they were all going to Six Flags. But no one invited her.
It wouldn't be a big deal if it were a one-off, but it happens a lot. PS invites her friends for things, and often they are able to go. But no one ever invites her. I don't think it's because she's "that annoying kid." For one thing, PS is very low key. But also because they don't always turn her down when she invites. She gets invited to parties where there are bigger groups, and she hangs out with them at school.
A couple of weeks ago we ran into a group of them at the library, where they had prearranged to meet (there aren't many options in our town). They seemed genuinely excited to see her, and then invited her along to walk to a nearby ice cream shop. So I don't think it's that they don't like PS--they just don't seem to ever think about PS unless she's standing in front of them. Sigh.
She also has her robotics group of friends, but they are all boys. It's about a 5-1 male/female ratio, and every one of the girls has a boyfriend (sadly, I think most of the girls are only doing it because of their boyfriends). The robo boys aren't into the artsier things that PS is. And she already spends a lot of time with them, and I'm not going to let her hang out with a group of all boys all the time (especially because one of them seems like he might be more than just a friend.) She needs girlfriends to hang out with.
I know her feelings were hurt by the Six Flags snub. I wish I could make it better. On he bright side, she actually hung out and chatted with DH and me last night, and that NEVER happens.